Babs in Blogland

Those dates be calling me, man!

Things with Good Guy are going well as you may have guessed from what I don’t write here in blogland.  We have gotten quite comfortable very quickly.  We see each other several times a week.  Whether it’s eating dinner in, going to Bible study or doing “family” activities.  It’s all very nice and what I have long desired in a relationship.

As much as I am enjoying being with Good Guy and enjoying the comfort of “having a man,” part of me still misses being in the game.  I miss getting all dolled up with extra care to hair and makeup.  I miss meeting a guy at a restaurant because I haven’t disclosed my address.  I miss candlelight, wine and white tablecloth service.  I miss the friendly goodbye hug at valet as I drive off to my own home where I can kick off my shoes, crash on the couch and do whatever I want.

Don’t get me wrong, I wouldn’t trade my Good Guy for the world.  The things we do together are fulfilling a need that I have had for a very long time.  I am more fulfilled with him after just five weeks than I ever was with Texas Holdem in five months.  My craving for honesty, consistency and family are being met and that is something I am very happy to have.

Although Good Guy is great and I am enjoying getting into the comfort zone, but there is something about going out with a new guy every week that is somewhat addictive.   I think that’s part of the problem for men and women in Atlanta.  Dating can be so much fun, there isn’t much incentive to settle down and focus on just one person.  Let’s face it, before I met Good Guy I was averaging about one date a week, so to have that stop so abruptly is leaving me feeling somewhat unsatisfied.

I had no intention of discussing this with Good Guy because I didn’t want him to think I was ungrateful for our time together.  He gives me copious amounts of quality time and I appreciate that considering how busy he is.  Still, it came up in conversation and he let me know that he didn’t want me to be left feeling unfulfilled in that area.  He and I agreed to start having regular “date nights.”  I love a man that listens to my needs and takes action!

To those of you who are married or in serious relationships, do you ever find yourselves missing the single life?  Do you miss going on first dates and all that is associated with dating?  Do you take the time to schedule date nights with your mate?